After my performances at events, particularly if I’ve been performing after dinner at corporate events, I’m asked questions about using my psychological know-how in ways that are helpful in every day life.
One popular one is about breaking habits. You want to stop smoking, you want to stop biting your nails – I personally like to click my ankles (yes, I’m attractive!). So how do we do it?
The ‘human nature’ way of doing it, as our instincts tell us, is to focus our attention elsewhere. Keep our minds occupied and therefor we won’t do ‘it’.
However that doesn’t seem to work.
The latest research I’ve been reading from J Quinn tells us we should do the opposite.
Instead of ignoring, pay close attention. If you bite your nails, keep a vigilant eye out to catch yourself doing it and consciously think ‘NO I WON’T DO THAT’ every time you have the urge.
What you’ll be doing here is dealing with your habit and re-programming your brain. If you were to just ignore it then the pattern would still exist.
So go fix yourself.