So, eminent psychologist Robert Zajaonic wanted to examine the premise that after 25 years of living together, couples get to look like each other. You have to wonder where a genius idea like that comes from in the first place, but I guess that’s a rant for another day.
Now, Robert looked into this premise with 110 couples (a serious study then or what?) and after showing them pictures of themselves during the first year of marriage and after 25 years of marriage, guess what, they all thought they’d begun to look like each other.
I don’t know about looking like each other, but in my household we all often think the same things. It’s usually when watching Corrie and will be about what Scary Mary or Tawdry Audrey are about to say. What’s more, we often think it at the same time. Spooky or what…..but anyway, I’d hate to think my other half grew to look like me, the blonde might work but the nose? Most unfortunate.
Then there’s the urban myth that says if you want to see your wife in 25 years time look at her mother. I think this is a little unfair on girls from one parent families. What happens if she’s being brought up by her Dad? Poor love, but how do you fancy being married to a girl with a heavy 5 o’clock shadow who has love and hate tattooed on her knuckles and who’s skin care products consist of Gillette and Wilkinson Sword (you are? Well just remember that love really does conquer all).
In a similar vein, there’s the idea that dog owners get to look like their dogs. I read with interest that psychologists do believe there is something in this premise. Firstly I think psychologists are rather like defence lawyers. You know, they get paid to argue any case however far-fetched, so the trick is to read between the lines. On a more practical note, you’d be very worried if you owned two dogs. Wouldn’t that make you rather two faced? Answers on a postcard please.
So can you regard a study of 110 participants as meaningful? Don’t forget that it’s only 55 couples (55 x 2 = 110 – do try to keep up) so the sample could easily have been affected by something completely random such as a little in breeding. The study took place in the American mid-west farming community, and it puts me in mind of that great painting, American Gothic by Grant Wood. Look again, now isn’t that just a little bit scary? Continuing in the arty vein I also think Eduard Munch’s famous Scream may lend a little to the debate. Look at it, do you think he’s just realised that she looks like him? It would be enough to make anyone scream wouldn’t it. And by the way, don’t you think the two Sotheby boys might be hiding something from us?